Saturday, January 26, 2013

Girls Night!

Friday's forecast wasn't the best. A winter weather advisory was in affect complete with icy roads and a bitter cold temperature. That didn't stop me from traveling to Etown to visit Lauren. I took half a day of vacation, jumped in the car after lunch, and made my way to Etown. The roads weren't bad, traffic was light, and I thought I had escaped winter weather's misery. Everything was going well until I turned onto Lauren's road which was a solid sheet of ice. I had a, "Jesus, take the wheel moment" when my car started swerving towards the stop sign at the end of the road but thankfully didn't hit. Other than that, my drive was easy.

Lauren and I greeted each other with a hug, I dropped my bags down, and we started talking immediately. There was so much I need to tell my best friend. I needed her listening ears, words of wisdom, her experience, her third party perspective; I simply needed my best friend. Without knowing it 3 hours had passed and my soul was already feeling refreshed. Whitney found her way to Lauren's and we made our way to a Mexican restaurant. The restaurant was packed and so loud which made for a fun atmosphere. All three us picked up from the last time we were with one another; we never missed a beat. Dinner was complete when Lauren used her napkin to wipe away the tears from laughing so hard. There were times where I was laughing so hard that I couldn't even look at the girls! Needless to say we were loud but then again the whole restaurant was loud and no one really noticed us.

We headed back to Lauren's house and she had made chocolate chess pie for us which was fabulous. We continued to laugh the night away until it was time for Whitney to make her way back to her sweet baby and husband. I don't know how Lauren and I did it but we kept our heavy eyelids open for several hours longer. Around 11 we crawled into bed.

Thank God for girlfriends. They know what is on your heart before you can tell them, they know the right words to say, make your side hurt from laughing, accept your raw feelings, listen to rambling thoughts, are the best therapy, and refresh your soul. Thank God for Lauren and Whitney! 

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Teak's Wisdom

I am madly in love with my Teak. She is like a second mother to me, best friend, wonderful listener, amazing cook, and rock for our family. The Teak holds it together when the rest of us are falling apart. Her friend, Norma, called her unflappable the other day. We obviously don't use words like this in every day conversation and had no idea what it meant. Was it a compliment? Upon looking it up, unflappable means someone is not easily bothered by things, goes with the flow, and is always happy. Teak is definitely unflappable.

Last night I just needed to talk to Teak about UF and our plans and she listened. She gave me great wisdom and it is uncanny how many parallels our life has. Teak knows what it is like to be a wife of a husband who has a demanding job and puts in long hours. She understands the moves and transitions that accompany a spouse's job.When my Papaw accepted a position at Iowa she had to pack up two babies and move to a town that she had never been to, didn't have housing lined up, nor family or friends to help her make this move. Teak said they stayed in a motel that first night, found a duplex in the days that followed, and moved in and for the first two days didn't have any furniture because it was in route to Ames, Iowa from Kentucky. I have no idea how she did that with two babies. After she told me that story, I thanked God for her wisdom and experience. She has done about everything a person can in her 82 years of life and it is through her experiences that I know Jace and I can make this move, transition into married life, and start the many chapters of our life together.

We ended up staying up to 11 last night talking and I soaked up her stories and wisdom. Thank God for her! She gives me the confidence and hope that with any transition and new chapter, we will be just fine.

Isn't that the most wonderful thing about grandparents. They have already been there, learned from the experience, and are eager to pass their wisdom onto us. I just so happen to get really lucky when God gave me my Teak!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

We are ACCEPTED!!!!!

Friends, what a day it has been! What a long 4 months it has been! I can officially announce that Jace has been accepted into the University of Florida's Graduate Tax program! Gator Nation grew by 2 today and we couldn't be more proud, excited, and thankful!

The process leading up until today has been long, stressful, worrisome, and to be honest, exhausting. Jace applied last October as soon as applications could start being accepted. UF has a rolling admissions process and we knew that our chances of getting in would be greater the earlier he sent in his application. UF quickly sent Jace a followup email saying they received his application, transcript, and letters of recommendation. They informed us within that letter that we should know the admissions committee's decision in four weeks. After glancing at the calendar, we figured we would know by Thanksgiving. With this time line, we hoped to have housing picked out by Christmas and be stocked up on suntan lotion. Oh, were we wrong.

We ate our turkey at Thanksgiving, stayed at home during Black Friday and went back to work and school after the holiday. December rolled around, Jace started studying for Finals, we survived another two week round of finals. It was during Finals that we both had our first freakout moment. Jace decided to email his contact at UF and inquire about the status of his application. We were hesitant on doing this because we didn't want to appear crazy to the admissions committee. We didn't want to negatively affect his application in any way. The contact informed Jace it would January before the committee made their selections due to the holidays and Finals. It was at this point that Jace said it would most likely be the end of the month before we would hear from them.

However, before we knew it would be sometime in January, I had my own personal freakout moment which lasted an entire week. I was obsessive about Jace going to the mailbox and would wonder if today would be the day? Today would we receive the letter that would determine our future? Obsessive, y'all, obsessive! After acting crazy for an entire week I let it go. I put our future in God's hands and like that, I was worry free. I didn't bring it up with Jace because I knew we couldn't do anything about the waiting period. We were going to have to wait. Wait on someone else's timetable. Worrying drains me and I didn't want to be miserable. I don't want this to sound cocky, but I knew deep down that everything was going to be fine. I knew we would go to UF. When I though about Jace's qualifications, his work ethic, his grades, his rank, his work experience-why wouldn't they take him? However, that confidence waxed and waned during the waiting process. Some days were better than others. Yet, this last week was the worst in the waiting period.

I have no idea what law school is like but Jace tells me that everyone has jobs lined up already with firms and know their starting salary. Every where he turned people were asking him what he was going to do post graduation. In like manner, everyone who knew me were asking if we had a back up plan, you know just in case...I know people asked that because they care about us but to be honest, we didn't have a back up plan. We gambled on this life decision. We put all our eggs in one basket. To be honest, it was maddening at times to answer the back up plan question over and over again.

Without telling me and wanting to talk about it, Jace was worried sick. His worry was consuming him and it wasn't until last night that I realized the magnitude of pressure he had put himself under and his worry about our future. He was worried about providing for our family, knew without a doubt he didn't want to be anything but a tax attorney, and didn't want to go anywhere but UF. However, with worry comes fear and he was afraid he was going to have to make some quick decisions. By that I mean, if we hadn't heard by the end of January we would be between a rock and a hard place. It would be almost too late to apply to another school. So yesterday, Jace researched Georgetown and the University of Boston.

This posed a problem for me. We had discussed Georgetown in the beginning but had ruled it out because it would cost an arm and a leg for us to live in DC for one year. We hadn't talked about Boston before. I didn't want to live in Boston because they wouldn't understand my accent and I wouldn't understand theirs'. I would also have to carry around Sweet-N-Low to sweeten my tea and you know that isn't favorable in restaurants. Nonetheless, Jace researched these programs just in case he need to submit his application asap! We went as far as to discussed last night if he should request transcripts this week! The whole Boston and Georgetown talk and Jace's fear and worry lead to a argument last night (yes, we have arguments!) and it ended up being one of those nights that you pray its all better the next day.

Today was just a normal day. I had a lengthy to do list at work, Jace started a new job at the library, and I went to the gym tonight. I was still upset over last night's argument with Jace and knew a good run would work everything out. I started out my run tight and my feet were heavy. I was about half way done with my run when I got a text from Jace that read "GOT THE LETTER!!!!". While running, I called him and asked if we got in. He said yes and I asked him to read me the letter. While he didn't read the entire thing I heard, "Mr. Stamper we are pleased to inform you...". With that I started to cry. Here I was looking like a HOT MESS on the treadmill, crying, while little undergrads were looking like gazelles without a bead of sweat. It took everything within not to scream, "my fiancé just got accepted into UF!!" I knew I needed to resist the urge because then I would be that crazy, sweaty, crying girl in the gym.

As soon as I walked out of the gym, I called Mom and the crying ensued. I then called Jace and the crying got worse. Happy tears and snot overcame me. The feelings in that moment were very similar to when Jace proposed. I was excited, in shock, grateful and thankful for the moment. Tonight we Skyped and at times we didn't say much. We simply smiled and knew that all our hard work had paid off. Jace let me get all my happy tears out and there came a point when I didn't cry saying UF anymore.

Jace's dreams are coming true. He is going to the 2nd best school in the nation for tax law and I get the blessing to watch him achieve his dreams. It has been an exhausting period waiting for someone to tell us our future. However, I never lost hope in Jace and his abilities. Even though we worried , the Bible says we need faith and it can be as small as a mustard seed. Thanks be to God for hearing the words on our hearts when we couldn't even muster a prayer.

Jace--I am so proud of you. Thank you for being an example of what it looks like to chase after your dreams. Let's chomp on baby! Praise God we are staying in the SEC!

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Life Lately

Hi friends, forgive me for not blogging lately. To be honest with you, nothing exciting has happened lately; just every day life. Here are such a few of my observations from this week, my thoughts, and wishes.

Feeling Old and Outdated--This week I am attending Jennifer's class and observing/participating in a financial activity, Money Habitutudes. To be honest with you, I am pumped to go to class. I miss the camaraderie of classmates and learning something new. However, I don't miss the tests or assignments. Monday was the first day I attended and I got to class 10 minutes early with my legal pad and pen ready to go! I went into class, found a seat, and a guy sits down next to me and whips out his Ipad and keyboard to take notes. What happened to pen and paper to take notes? I know a student taking notes on an Ipad shouldn't shock me but as a girl who doesn't own a smartphone or Ipad, I realized I am a technological laggard. Class hadn't even started and I felt old and extremely outdated, at 25.

Glasses--I got my glasses last week and I love them. I can see so clearly now and it is sad how bad my eyes were. I still see the frames and have a mild problem with depth perception, especially when it comes to the stairs. The biggest difference is seeing the scores and ticker on ESPN and street signs. Amazing what clear sight gives you!

Gazelle--I am trying hard to run twice a week in preparation for the Color Me Rad 5K. I run 3.1 miles and honey let me tell you, I am not fast but I try. My goal is just to finish the 5K. When I run on the treadmill I try to run a 12 minute mile. All I want to do is keep up with the time we had to run in high school. Yesterday, it was cold and nasty here, I had sat in meetings almost all day and just wanted to go home. However, I made myself go to the gym. I zoned out and just ran. I was feeling good about my run and wasn't gasping for air like normal. But then this girl who had to be six foot tall or more got on the treadmill next to me. She starting running and y'all she looked like a gazelle. She made running look effortless and enjoyable. I secretly hated and admired her at the same time.

Girls' night--The girls and I are gathering at Lauren's next Friday for girls' night. I truly don't know who needs this time more: Whitney, Brittney, Lauren, or I? I don't know if we are all going to get together to cry, laugh, or rant? Probably a little of each! Gosh, I miss those girls and I need next Friday to hurry up and get here!

UF--STILL.NO.WORD!!!!!!!!! I have accepted this waiting period but that doesn't mean that worry and fear don't creep in my thoughts. Maybe we will hear something by the end of the month-who knows. I will let you know when we find something out. I pray we will be heading to the sunshine state in August.

Hope y'all are good.

Monday, January 7, 2013

Unwavering

Today at work we had a retreat that centered around Jon Gordan's book, The Energy Bus. In a nutshell, the book explains that we are drivers of our bus (our life) and if we have positive energy, enthusiasm, and a focused direction people will want to get on our bus. This concept can be applied to any organization, team, or family. The book was a quick read, enjoyable, and enlightening. There is a workbook that breaks down the ten rules for your energy bus and today in groups we went through each rule. During this exercise we were asked to come up with one word that describes our vision for our life. Within a few seconds, my word struck me and I wanted to share with the group. My word was unwavering.

On my personal energy bus, I want to be unwavering in my love. I want to love with all my heart, love hard, and be thankful for the ones I have to love. I realize I have wedding on the brain 24/7 and am a planning bride but I pray that I can love Jace with an unwavering love that loves at all times and is unconditional. I want to be a wife that he is proud of and he knows that he is loved. I want him to feel my support each day and know that I am always in his corner. I want our relationship to be an example of Christ's love for us. I want to give unwavering love.

I want to be unwavering in my faith. Over Christmas break I told Jace that we should stop making plans. We never planned that he would go to law school in MS, we never imagined we would apply to a tax program at Florida, we never imagined living anywhere else besides Graves County. I have learned through the waiting, particularly the UF application process, that it is silly to make plans. Making our own plans are comforting and let's us feel in control but the thing is, we aren't in control. God is the real one in control and I am slowly learning to rest in this fact. This lesson has been hard and I have to relearn this fact quite often. However, one thing that isn't hard for me to grasp is knowing my Lord and Savior has a greater plan for me, greater than I can dream up or think about. So why worry? Why fret? If I am to be unwavering in my faith, I have to put complete trust in Him and I know he will take care of both Jace and I, our future, and our future careers.

So I pose the question to you--what is your one word vision for your life? Maybe this word will be easier to keep than a New Year's resolution? Maybe you will write this word down and look at it each day and make an effort to live out this word? Maybe this word will get people on your bus?

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Happy New Year!!

I am a few days late but Happy Year!!! I hope your 2013 is off to a great start! Did you have a good Christmas break?

Christmas break was a wonderful break. It was nice to not set an alarm clock for a week! I stayed busy though. On Christmas Eve, we all celebrated at Teak's. It was so fun with the twins this year. Brantley wasn't feeling too hot but Bo had enough energy for both of them!

Look at those blue eyes!
For me it is not Christmas until we attended Crestwood's Christmas Eve service. We used to attend the 11 PM service but the past two years we have gone to the 7:30 PM. The sanctuary is dimly light and we sing Silent Night for the last song. Everyone in the congregation has a candle and y'all I can barely get through the song because I am overcome with emotion. There is a man from our choir that sings "Sweet Little Jesus Boy" and it takes my breath away. It is after this service that if finally feels like Christmas to me.

On Christmas morning Mom, Ross, and I traveled back to GC. We celebrated Christmas and Mom outdid herself again this year. I finally got my Longchamp purse I have patiently been waiting 6 months for. I started using it that day and can fit everything and the kitchen sink in it! Mom also got me a new GPS; she knew I would need it in FL!!! Jace and I also got a few more kitchen items.

Jace and I on Christmas Evening
I got a real treat from Jace; a whole week to spend together! We stole away to Nashville and stayed at the Opryland Hotel one night. Oh my gosh-it was gorgeous. Upon arrival, they upgraded our room to a balcony room! We have no idea how that happened but we took it! We stayed in the Cascades portion of the hotel and it was wonderful. That night we sat on our balcony and people watched and it was like an indoor beach! We squeezed in some shopping and spent a little Christmas money.

View from our balcony
The stockings had real toys in them!
 
Waterfall in the Cascades
 
The tree had large presents and teddy bars as ornaments
However, no trip home is complete without a few appointments. The time had come for me to get my eyes tested. I knew going into the appointment what the doctor was going to say. I knew my eyes were getting bad when I was having a hard time seeing the ballgame scores on TV. According to the doctor, I am near sighted and my glasses should be in any day now. Honey, I don't own one coach purse but I am going to be rockin' some Coach glasses!

Then I had an appointment with the car repairman. My car hasn't wanted to register how much gas I have in my tank. Don't be jealous but I have a new fuel pump!

As for New Year's Eve, Jace and I went to dinner and rounded out the night watching a House Hunters marathon. I was asleep by 10:30 and was perfectly happy with our night in. As for me, I don't set any resolutions even though it has been fun reading other people's on blogs and Facebook. I want to soak up this year. 2013 will be one heck of ride with Jace graduating law school, wedding showers, preparing for and hopefully surviving the Bar, our wedding and honeymoon, hopefully a move to FL, my brother's wedding plus a ton more, and who knows what else God has planned. I want to soak up every minute and just enjoy life.

2012 also marked my first year of blogging. Thanks for reading and letting me share my thoughts and feelings. Best wishes to you in the New Year!